I am just wandering about and have always loved porn. I don't think there is anything disgusting or condescending about it. Most of the taboo is social perception by some folks who mean to "do right" by opposing it and that behavior is just a gate for the opposition to use or walk thru. It doesn't make it right, or make it wrong. It just is what it is and everyone just has to understand and define their limits. When two people get together with the same definition of understanding, then they can have a very successful and very respectful trusting relationship. A loving relationship cannot survive without a sexual relationship and that doesn't mean always having sex between the two loving partners. Sometimes there is more to the definition of sexual understanding that meets the qualifications of both lovers involved. Some people get their adrenaline rush by actively participating in extreme sports. Some people get that same adrenaline rush by actively participating in, well what some may say, is promiscuous sexual behavior. Sometimes, just visually watching that behavior is enough to cause the adrenaline to flow. Sometimes, just discussing that promiscuous behavior is all that it takes.
Pictures can say a lot. Video can highly increase the perception. Being present can razzel the senses beyond expectations. It is all good.